6. "Where did you go to school?"
Believe it or not, many people didn't go to college, and totally resent being put on the spot with this tired old question. And while plenty of grads are happy to wax on and on about their "glory years" or whatever, it's probably better to ask something like, "Have you always lived here?" "How did you choose your career?" or another more general question that might lead you to discussing educational background. Again, it may seem strange, but for all kinds of reasons, a lot of people have negative knee-jerk reactions to this seemingly innocuous question.
7. "Can I take your picture?"
Creepy much? But yeah, I have girlfriends who've been waylaid by this gem. For real. Maybe it's the thought of him showing his buddies your photo and bragging about bagging you, or even the image of him fawning over your pic tacked up on one of those cray-cray serial killer wall collages. Either way, ick.
8. "I'm poly-(fill in the blank)"
There are folks who are polyamorous (def: the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved); polygamist (def: the practice of marriage to more than one spouse simultaneously); and yes, some are even polyester salesmen (def: dudes who peddle chintzy wares). Right then. Unless you met that person on a "special" site devoted to that kind of stuff, chances are your date won't appreciate your um, open-minded ways.
9. "So I just got out of rehab."
So maybe you have some personal problems you've been working on. Perhaps you've been in therapy since you were 13 years old. Whatever the case may be, it's probably best not to introduce your new romantic interest to your BIG, SCARY ISSUES, at least not yet. Everybody has problems big and small, but the first date is more about showing off your personality, not painting yourself as a psychotic addict (even if you are, just a smidge). Note: If you are seriously in the midst of a personal crisis, and that includes excessive drug use and/or major psychological treatment, not to be all judgey, but you probably shouldn't be on a date right now.
10. "So ya wanna come back to my place?"
Not everyone is old-fashioned about first dates. The right time to sleep with someone is up to you, but numerous informal polls, um, around the office show that when a guy propositions a woman for sex on the first date, she tends to get skeeved, and when a girl does the same, many dudes are likely to file her in the one night stand category. Double standard? Sure. And yes, some couples do have sex on the first date and there is nothing wrong with that. But I think you know what I'm sayin'...
OK That's all folks, good luck for ya all..
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
Monday, March 09, 2009
10 Things Not To Say On A Date
First dates are stressful, period. You don't want to lie, but you also don't want to send your date running off to hail a cab before you've even ordered the cheese plate. Basically, the goals of a successful first date are to reveal that adorable, endearing part of yourself, learn more about the stranger sitting across from you, and to see if there is any connection between you two crazy kids. Obviously, it's important to be honest, but some of the more intimate parts of you are well, sorta personal. (Besides, everybody is intrigued by a little mystery and you want to save something for the second and third dates, right?) We don't really believe there are any hard and fast rules when it comes to dating, and despite what movies would have you think, there is no such thing as the "perfect date". Still, here's hoping you find a couple of them helpful, and good luck out there.
1. "My ex is crazy."
There's a fine line between love and hate, but both are equally fueled by passion. If someone even mentions their ex on a first date, watch out, you could be entering into a three-way relationship. Brace yourself: drama ahead! Anyway, if you're not over your ex, keep it to yourself. Your date certainly doesn't want to hear about it.
2. "I would like to get married and have kids asap."
Slow. That. Roll. Whether you're a man or a woman, uttering those words automatically puts pressure on an already delicate, stressful meeting, not to mention the fact that it's a foolproof way to scare someone off and fast.
3. "Who are you voting for?"
There's a saying in the south about not bringing up politics or religion in polite company. Plenty of couples don't always share political (or religious) views, and learn to make things work. But when you're trying to make a good first impression, it's probably best to avoid overly emotional topics in order to avoid a sparring match. (Look at it this way, if you become a couple, you'll have plenty of opportunities to fight later!)
4. "Can you pay the check? I'm broke."
Hey, the economy is in the toilet. Of course you're broke. We're all broke. But common courtesy dictates that the person who did the date asking offer to pay the bill. Chances are, if your date has good manners, they'll over to split it or pay the tip. Let's face it, gone are the days where the guy automatically must pay for dinner or he's a loser. But no matter what the circumstances are, flat out asking your date to pay the bill is a major turn-off.
5. "What's your favorite TV show?"
C'mon, we can do better than that. Asking about hobbies and other interests can lead to great conversation, but the last message you want to convey is that your favorite activity is watching the tube with a tub of ice cream. Save talking about "America's Next Top Model" for the work water cooler or something.
1. "My ex is crazy."
There's a fine line between love and hate, but both are equally fueled by passion. If someone even mentions their ex on a first date, watch out, you could be entering into a three-way relationship. Brace yourself: drama ahead! Anyway, if you're not over your ex, keep it to yourself. Your date certainly doesn't want to hear about it.
2. "I would like to get married and have kids asap."
Slow. That. Roll. Whether you're a man or a woman, uttering those words automatically puts pressure on an already delicate, stressful meeting, not to mention the fact that it's a foolproof way to scare someone off and fast.
3. "Who are you voting for?"
There's a saying in the south about not bringing up politics or religion in polite company. Plenty of couples don't always share political (or religious) views, and learn to make things work. But when you're trying to make a good first impression, it's probably best to avoid overly emotional topics in order to avoid a sparring match. (Look at it this way, if you become a couple, you'll have plenty of opportunities to fight later!)
4. "Can you pay the check? I'm broke."
Hey, the economy is in the toilet. Of course you're broke. We're all broke. But common courtesy dictates that the person who did the date asking offer to pay the bill. Chances are, if your date has good manners, they'll over to split it or pay the tip. Let's face it, gone are the days where the guy automatically must pay for dinner or he's a loser. But no matter what the circumstances are, flat out asking your date to pay the bill is a major turn-off.
5. "What's your favorite TV show?"
C'mon, we can do better than that. Asking about hobbies and other interests can lead to great conversation, but the last message you want to convey is that your favorite activity is watching the tube with a tub of ice cream. Save talking about "America's Next Top Model" for the work water cooler or something.
Wednesday, March 04, 2009
Is there anyone prays for Us ?
Have you ever heard about "Power of a Prayer" some of the people don;t believe in that, some of them believes. Which one are you?
Here a short story about a Power of Prayer..
A successful entrepreneur fall in his bathroom and got stroke. It has been 7 days he treated in the ICU. In his sleep he dream of an angel talked to him. The angel tell him, “you will be alive if before 24:00 there is 50 people pray for you. And you will be dead if that amount is not achieved”.
“Only 50 people, it’s piece of cake..”, says this man confidently.
After that the angel leave and say that he will be back an hour before the deadline.
23:00 sharp, the angel come back; the entrepreneur ask him, “Is tomorrow I will be recovered? There must be many people prays for me, the employee in my office reach 2000, so 50 people praying for me is really easy..right?”
Gently the angel says, “ My son, I already looking around to find some people who prays for you, but I only find 3 people who prays for you, but your time only 60 minute left. It’s really impossible to find the rest..”
Then the angel shows a big screen. In that screen shown a sad face of His wife along with his two children, son and daughter who prays really hard and there’s a tears falling from their eyes.
The angel says, “I’ll tell you why God really want to give you second chance, It’s because of your wife prayer never ends.”.
The screen shows that his wife pray for him in 2:00 o’clock in the morning, “God, I know in his life he is not a good husband or good father, I know that he already betrayed our marriage, I know he is not fair in his business and if he ever give a donation, it’s just for popularity and for cover all his bad action. But God, please take a look of these kid that You’ve given to us, they still need a father. I can’t raise them alone.”
After that she stop saying anything but her tears falls really hard.
Seeing that, the entrepreneurs really sad, he regret that he is not a good husband and a good father who can give a good guidance for his children. Tonight he realized how much his family loves him. Then he cries.
Time goes on, the deadline is 10 minutes more. This is a regret that he never forget. But it’s too late, impossible to find 47 people who pray for him in just 10 minutes.
With a soft voice he asked the angel, “Is there among my employee, my relatives, my business partner prays for me?”
The angel replied, “There is a few prays for you, but they not pray with their heart. Even there is people who feel good that you are sick, it’s because in your life you are arrogant, selfish, and not a good boss. And also you dare fired an innocent employee”. The entrepreneur keep silent and cries.
When the time arrives, suddenly the angel said, “My son, God has seen your tears and your regret!! You will be alive. There’s 47 more people prays for you on 24:00 sharp”.
With surprise the entrepreneur ask who are the 47 people. With smile the angel shows a place that he ever visited a month ago.
”Isn’t that an orphanage?”, ask him. “That’s right my son. You’ve been giving them help a couple of month ago, even though I know your purpose is just for popularity and to attract overseas investor.”
”This morning, some of the kid read on the newspaper that an entrepreneur had a stroke and has been 7 days treated in the ICU. After he saw the picture of the entrepreneur, he knows that that man is you, who ever help them and finally all of the kid on that orphanage prays for your health.”
The Point is :
* A Prayer has a great strength, a prayer is powerfull.
* Sometimes we are too lazy to pray, we don’t have time, we’re
not burdened to pray for others.
* When we pray for others, we will have a new power from God.
Don’t wait for anything to pray for others.
Here a short story about a Power of Prayer..
A successful entrepreneur fall in his bathroom and got stroke. It has been 7 days he treated in the ICU. In his sleep he dream of an angel talked to him. The angel tell him, “you will be alive if before 24:00 there is 50 people pray for you. And you will be dead if that amount is not achieved”.
“Only 50 people, it’s piece of cake..”, says this man confidently.
After that the angel leave and say that he will be back an hour before the deadline.
23:00 sharp, the angel come back; the entrepreneur ask him, “Is tomorrow I will be recovered? There must be many people prays for me, the employee in my office reach 2000, so 50 people praying for me is really easy..right?”
Gently the angel says, “ My son, I already looking around to find some people who prays for you, but I only find 3 people who prays for you, but your time only 60 minute left. It’s really impossible to find the rest..”
Then the angel shows a big screen. In that screen shown a sad face of His wife along with his two children, son and daughter who prays really hard and there’s a tears falling from their eyes.
The angel says, “I’ll tell you why God really want to give you second chance, It’s because of your wife prayer never ends.”.
The screen shows that his wife pray for him in 2:00 o’clock in the morning, “God, I know in his life he is not a good husband or good father, I know that he already betrayed our marriage, I know he is not fair in his business and if he ever give a donation, it’s just for popularity and for cover all his bad action. But God, please take a look of these kid that You’ve given to us, they still need a father. I can’t raise them alone.”
After that she stop saying anything but her tears falls really hard.
Seeing that, the entrepreneurs really sad, he regret that he is not a good husband and a good father who can give a good guidance for his children. Tonight he realized how much his family loves him. Then he cries.
Time goes on, the deadline is 10 minutes more. This is a regret that he never forget. But it’s too late, impossible to find 47 people who pray for him in just 10 minutes.
With a soft voice he asked the angel, “Is there among my employee, my relatives, my business partner prays for me?”
The angel replied, “There is a few prays for you, but they not pray with their heart. Even there is people who feel good that you are sick, it’s because in your life you are arrogant, selfish, and not a good boss. And also you dare fired an innocent employee”. The entrepreneur keep silent and cries.
When the time arrives, suddenly the angel said, “My son, God has seen your tears and your regret!! You will be alive. There’s 47 more people prays for you on 24:00 sharp”.
With surprise the entrepreneur ask who are the 47 people. With smile the angel shows a place that he ever visited a month ago.
”Isn’t that an orphanage?”, ask him. “That’s right my son. You’ve been giving them help a couple of month ago, even though I know your purpose is just for popularity and to attract overseas investor.”
”This morning, some of the kid read on the newspaper that an entrepreneur had a stroke and has been 7 days treated in the ICU. After he saw the picture of the entrepreneur, he knows that that man is you, who ever help them and finally all of the kid on that orphanage prays for your health.”
The Point is :
* A Prayer has a great strength, a prayer is powerfull.
* Sometimes we are too lazy to pray, we don’t have time, we’re
not burdened to pray for others.
* When we pray for others, we will have a new power from God.
Don’t wait for anything to pray for others.
Friday, February 27, 2009
MAN RULES!!!!!!!
Hi guyz, today i wan't to share about how some man think about things..
Don't be so serious, this is just for relax...
These are our rules! Please note. These are all numbered
"1" ON PURPOSE!
1. Men ARE NOT mind readers.
1. Learn to work the toilet seat. You're a big girl. If it's
up, put it
down. We need it up, you need it down. You don't hear us
complaining about you leaving it down.
1. Sunday sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the
tides.
Let it be.
1. Shopping is NOT a sport. And no, we are never going to think of
it that way.
1. Crying is blackmail.
1. Ask for what you want; let us be clear on this one:
Subtle hints do not work!
Strong hints do not work!
Obvious hints do not work!
Just say it!
1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every
question.
1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it.
That's
what
we do, Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument, in
fact,
all comments become null and void after 7 days.
1. If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us.
1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the
ways
makes you sad or angry, we meant the other
one.
1. You can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it
done,
not both.
1. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during
commercials.
1. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we.
1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings.
1. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color. Pumpkin is also a
fruit.
We have no idea what mauve is.
1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," we will
act like
nothing's wrong. We know it's not the truth, but it is just
not worth
the
hassle.
1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, expect an
answer
you
don't want to
hear.
1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is
fine...really.
1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are
prepared to
discuss such topics as baseball, the shotgun formation or golf.
1. You have enough clothes.
1. You have too many shoes.
1. I am in shape. Round IS a shape!
1. Thank you for reading this. Yes, I know I have to sleep on the
couch
tonight; but did you know men really don't mind that? It's
like camping.
Don't be so serious, this is just for relax...
These are our rules! Please note. These are all numbered
"1" ON PURPOSE!
1. Men ARE NOT mind readers.
1. Learn to work the toilet seat. You're a big girl. If it's
up, put it
down. We need it up, you need it down. You don't hear us
complaining about you leaving it down.
1. Sunday sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the
tides.
Let it be.
1. Shopping is NOT a sport. And no, we are never going to think of
it that way.
1. Crying is blackmail.
1. Ask for what you want; let us be clear on this one:
Subtle hints do not work!
Strong hints do not work!
Obvious hints do not work!
Just say it!
1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every
question.
1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it.
That's
what
we do, Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument, in
fact,
all comments become null and void after 7 days.
1. If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us.
1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the
ways
makes you sad or angry, we meant the other
one.
1. You can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it
done,
not both.
1. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during
commercials.
1. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we.
1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings.
1. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color. Pumpkin is also a
fruit.
We have no idea what mauve is.
1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," we will
act like
nothing's wrong. We know it's not the truth, but it is just
not worth
the
hassle.
1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, expect an
answer
you
don't want to
hear.
1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is
fine...really.
1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are
prepared to
discuss such topics as baseball, the shotgun formation or golf.
1. You have enough clothes.
1. You have too many shoes.
1. I am in shape. Round IS a shape!
1. Thank you for reading this. Yes, I know I have to sleep on the
couch
tonight; but did you know men really don't mind that? It's
like camping.
Sunday, February 22, 2009
Mars and venus
Well i believe you know the term "Man is from mars and woman is from venus" right. this is the common way to say man and woman are REALLY different..Man usually (almost everytime) use his logic to interpret something, on the other hand woman use her feeling.. this is how they are not connected each other.
When we need to understand the thought of our partner, don't use your own head,this is applied to man and woman. put yourself in his/her place, so that you can feel what your partners feels.
Man is a simple, logical, "to the point" type human being.
But Woman is complex, "out of ordinary" type human being.
I have a story of a couple who has issues about a relation ship, this is some of their diary book.
Here it is...
Woman's diary book :
Sunday Night - He act really strange. 3 hour ago we make an appointment in a cafe. I have shopping from the morning
with my friend, so maybe he is a little upset when i'm late arriving on the cafe, but he is not saying anything.
We talk but not going well, so i suggest we go to a quiter place so we can talk more freely. He agree, but he still quite. I asked him whether somethings wrong, but he said nothing. I asked him is it because i'm late that make him upset. But he said nothing. He said this is nothing to do with me and ask me not to worry.
In our way home, i said "I love you", he smiled a little and keep driving. I can't explain how he act that night, i can't figured out why he not replied me "I love you too" As we got home, i really lost him, i feel that he doesn't want me anymore. He just sat and watching TV.
Finally i decided to sleep. in about 10 minute he walked into the room. I can't stand it anymore, i made up my mind and asked him what is the problem. But he fall asleep already. I cried till i asleep. I don;t know what i should do.
My life really crushed.
Man's Diary
Damn, today Manchester United lost....!!!!!!!!!!
So...you see the differences?? To understand woman or vice versa, you have to think like her.
When we need to understand the thought of our partner, don't use your own head,this is applied to man and woman. put yourself in his/her place, so that you can feel what your partners feels.
Man is a simple, logical, "to the point" type human being.
But Woman is complex, "out of ordinary" type human being.
I have a story of a couple who has issues about a relation ship, this is some of their diary book.
Here it is...
Woman's diary book :
Sunday Night - He act really strange. 3 hour ago we make an appointment in a cafe. I have shopping from the morning
with my friend, so maybe he is a little upset when i'm late arriving on the cafe, but he is not saying anything.
We talk but not going well, so i suggest we go to a quiter place so we can talk more freely. He agree, but he still quite. I asked him whether somethings wrong, but he said nothing. I asked him is it because i'm late that make him upset. But he said nothing. He said this is nothing to do with me and ask me not to worry.
In our way home, i said "I love you", he smiled a little and keep driving. I can't explain how he act that night, i can't figured out why he not replied me "I love you too" As we got home, i really lost him, i feel that he doesn't want me anymore. He just sat and watching TV.
Finally i decided to sleep. in about 10 minute he walked into the room. I can't stand it anymore, i made up my mind and asked him what is the problem. But he fall asleep already. I cried till i asleep. I don;t know what i should do.
My life really crushed.
Man's Diary
Damn, today Manchester United lost....!!!!!!!!!!
So...you see the differences?? To understand woman or vice versa, you have to think like her.
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